Access vs. Inclusion : GREECE 2018

Our recent adventure to Greece at Fykiada Retreats was magic. (Pics below!)

The Aegean sea, raw and stunning natural environment, fresh and delicious food, nurturing yoga, inspiring company -  truly incredible. What was even more special were the connections and community created on this trip. A group of strangers evolved into close friends and developed a support network that will last a lifetime. On our adventures this is a common occurrence and our ultimate goal; to adventure is to find yourself whole and know that you truly belong. People often arrive on our adventures having forgotten that even when we’re utterly alone, we’re connected to one another by something greater than group membership, politics and ideology — we’re connected by love and the human spirit. No matter how separated we are by what we think and believe, we are part of the same spiritual story. 

We believe that just because you have access (a way or means of approach) to a group, experience or even a person, does not mean that you are included (part of the whole). So many of us long to be a part of something real. We want true belonging, but it does take courage to experience and embody being seen, heard, valued for who you are as a unique soul on this planet. 

This type of inclusion is not passive; it is beyond and deeper than 'access'.  It is not fitting in or pretending or selling out because it feels like a safer option. It is a practice that requires us to be vulnerable, get uncomfortable and learn how to be present with people, without sacrificing who we are. It’s about breaking down the walls,  listening to ourselves and others, having difficult conversations, looking for joy, shared pain and becoming more curious rather than defensive or judgemental, all while seeking moments of togetherness. 

True belonging is not something you negotiate externally, it’s what you carry in your heart. It’s finding the sacredness in being a part of something. When we reach this place, even momentarily, we belong everywhere and nowhere. When people choose to show up for themselves and one another as they did in Greece, that is when we heal and grow. It is in these moments we know we have found our people and we long to continue living a life that is rich with connection and care. 

While in Greece and witnessing these blossoming relationships and how special and necessary they were,  I compiled a brief list titled 'You know you've found your people when...' Please trust that if these items below feel far beyond your current reach, you CAN choose a new path.  A different adventure awaits you and it might be time to bravely seek + find your people. I know they are out there and life is so much sweeter when they are by your side. 

'You know you've found your people when...'  

You are not worried or concerned about any judgement

There is never any shame for how you think, feel or show up

You do not hide parts of yourself

They leave you feeling better about yourself 

Never are you bullied, humiliated, put down, deliberately hurt or ridiculed 

They do things that contribute to your happiness + well being. 

Ease overcomes anxiety 

love trumps fear 

They mean what they say and say what they mean. No guessing games, pure integrity 

You feel comfortable and happy in your own body because you are loved beyond physical form

You can make decisions that feel right for you and trust you are supported by others

All is safe and you can simply BE you. 

You are more powerful because you empower each other 

Sharing is always caring and without hesitation

Everyone benefits from another's growth and healing

Silence isn't awkward

Even after time apart, it feels like you saw them yesterday and as though a moment hasn't passed

Trustworthy and willing to tell you the truth, even when it's hard for you to hear.

LOTS of laughs (sometimes with you, sometimes at you!) 

LOTS of tears (sometimes yours, sometimes theirs!) 

Real, honest + open conversations happen often 

Hugs are abundant

Check out the latest embodied adventure with our people. xo